One outcome I promise you coming out of this program is total personal responsibility. It’s a biggie. I understand you might be thinking, “I already shoulder a heavy load, and I’m too serious as it is. How can I be more responsible than I already am?”
Take a look at how you communicate. How often do you:
- Gripe that the way things are handled in your workplace are unfair?
- Stew about your inconsiderate colleague who always calls you on Friday afternoon to ruin your weekend with last-minute requests?
- Respond to your co-worker’s query: “How are you?” with “I’m crazy busy,” followed by a breathless litany of things that aren’t going well or are totally out of control?
- Gossip with colleagues about something someone did that upset you?
This is complaining. So, what’s that got to do with personal responsibility?
- Complaining and whining are ways we avoid taking responsibility.
A lot of informal chatter around the office is actually one form or another of complaining. We’re talking everyday conversations, including those you have with others and those you have with yourself (i.e., your inner thoughts). Start to notice during your day how many conversations and thoughts contain complaining, griping, whining, kvetching, gossiping, or all of the above.